The Agony of Disappointment
The Agony of Disappointment
There are two sides to disappointment.
Being disappointed by someone and being a disappointment to someone. They both can produce pain, agony or misery if you let them.
Being disappointed by someone
Who hasn’t had their expectations dashed? I would find it hard to believe any child growing up anywhere not having this happen at least once in their childhood by their parents. (Not necessarily that it was their parents fault but it appears to be their fault to the child at the time.) And it can happen by anyone at all, such as, church members, pastors, teachers, neighbors, friends, co-workers, spouse, children etc. (that is, these people can be perceived to have disappointed you or be perceived to have not met your expectations at any time).
So how do you get rid of the pain of being disappointed by someone?
The same way you get rid of any emotional pain—give it to God. Be very deliberate in prayer and give it to Him. Ask Him to heal your hurt and pain. Listen to what He says to you and in what He may tell you to do, such as forgiving the person involved for disappointing you.
There may be a place in you where God wants you to change your expectations toward the person involved. There is a chance that whatever you were expecting from them should have really come from God.
Being a disappointment to someone
Although you may not be as aware of this type of disappointment when it happens I can assure you that if you are a living breathing human being you have disappointed someone else at some time. Finding out that you have, if you care about that person at all, can be just as painful as being disappointed.
So how do you get rid of the pain of being a disappointment to someone?
The same way you get rid of the pain of being disappointed by someone else. You give it to God very deliberately. Ask God to heal the person involved and that they will be able to take their hurt to Him. Ask God to help that person change their expectations of you (if God says that is what is needed).
Ask God to heal your hurt and pain caused by the knowing that you disappointed someone you care about. God may have you apologize (even if you don’t think you did anything wrong and even if that’s true!). Listen to Him and pray what He says and do what He says.
The main thing is that you need to take these disappointments to God and be very deliberate and specific about them in prayer, not vague and general.
Has there been any time where you were disappointed and God helped you through it? Has there been any time where you found out you were a disappointment to someone else and God helped you through it? Please share in the comment section below!
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